A Guy’s Guide to Giving Blowjobs

A guide for bi-curious men and first timers.

It’s finally happening: the guy of your dreams is right there in front of you, juicy cock just waiting to be sucked. And then you freeze up. You’re nervous! You’ve never done this before! Sure, you may have *received* head plenty of times in your life, but with the tables turned? You’re out of your depth.

Fear not, gentle reader. Your resident dominatrix is here to guide you down the path of becoming a class-A cocksucker.

It’s called a blowjob for a reason.

When you give your first blowjob, you might be surprised at just how much of a JOB it is. That doesn’t mean it’s not fun, on the contrary, but you do need to have enough tactics in your arsenal to keep the party going if your jaw gets tired. Better yet, with the right techniques you can speed the process along or draw it out as it suits you and avoid the lockjaw situation entirely. Don’t worry, I’ll get to that later.

There’s nothing sadder than a limp dick, so get him HARD before he’s even unzipped.

Your job is a lot easier and a LOT more fun if he’s already erect before you start. You’d be surprised just how thrilling it is to tease a guy over their clothes until they are desperate for your mouth. Make him desperate for the feeling of your tongue on his cock. It will give you a confidence boost and get the both of you revved up. He WANTS you to give him a blowjob. Use this knowledge to your advantage.

Don’t be afraid to suck.

Now, this will vary from partner to partner, but many guys LOVE a bit of suction, particularly at the beginning. Make his eyes roll back in his head by applying suction on your first few trips up and down. Gauge his response. If it’s too much sensation, you can back off and build back up later. Suction brings more blood into the penis, making him even more erect and sensitive from the start.

Your jaw’s tired. Now what?

Now’s your chance to shine. Spend some time loving on the head, balls, even his perineum if that’s something he’s comfortable with. Most men love having their balls played with. Lick them, suck one at a time, both, give your jaw a break and blow his mind at the same time. You can jerk him off while you’re down there so you don’t lose steam. Alternately, you can move to a few long, slow licks up and down the shaft with LOTS of eye contact before diving back in. This is a huge turn-on and way less of a strain.

Overcoming your gag reflex

It’s normal to have a bit of a gag reflex. If you are worried about an embarrassing moment, squeeze your LEFT thumb tight in your fist. This activates a pressure point in your palm and suppresses your gag reflex in the moment. If gagging is a persistent issue, you can train yourself at home by practicing on a dildo.

Advanced tongue techniques

Your tongue can produce many different sensations… if you are just bobbing up and down, you’re cheating yourself and your partner. A tongue pressed flat provides gentle, full coverage contact, while the tip and sides can be used for pinpoint sensation. A tongue on the frenulum (the little stringy bit of flesh under the head) drives some guys absolutely wild. Give it a shot!

Finishing the job

Remember, monotony is a boner-killer, so if you’ve switched things up and paid attention to all of his sensitive spots, he’s probably ready to blow. Adding some manual stimulation to his balls and shaft as you increase the tempo of your bobbing will assist in pushing him over the edge. From there, it’s up to you where to take it. If you are sensitive about the taste, pushing his cock to the back of your throat can bypass your tongue completely. Tuck your thumb to avoid any gagging. And boom! Congratulations. You’ve finished your first blowjob. Give yourself a round of applause.