Masculinity and Male Submission

BDSM allows participants a safe space to explore topics and ideas they wouldn’t ordinarily explore. Women being involved in humiliation, enjoying being called “whore,” or otherwise degraded is relatively normalized, but *men* being interested in such things carries far more stigma.

This is, in no small part, due to toxic masculinity. Many men have issues admitting weakness and any deviation from sexual norms can be a cause of insecurity. There is a lot of pressure to be a RUGGED, STRAIGHT, ALPHA MALE, and when men realize they *aren’t* wired like that — perhaps they are closeted bisexuals, or have a small penis, or have any number of insecurities — they often turn to BDSM to process those feelings. (I consider this a far healthier means of processing insecurities than compensating via punching down toward women or minorities, but that’s neither here nor there.)

Of course, many men turn to submission simply because they enjoy power exchange or because they have a fetish, and that is perfectly valid as well. I strive to create an environment where male submissives feel comfortable exploring their kinks in a safe, sane, and consensual manner regardless of their motivations.

My standards for slaves and lifestyle submissives are different than those who are simply looking to explore a kink in the confines of a scene or session, but that’s another blog post for another time.

Whether you are looking for an Orlando dominatrix, to purchase femdom porn, or explore submission in a virtual femdom session, I strive to treat male submissives with dignity even as I mold them to fit my (very high) standards.